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Choosing a bikini for my holiday that flatters my figure and gives me confidence!

25/6/2018

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Swimsuit from Swimwear365 and scarf as a sarong from Sweet-Bea (links are below)

​Every year before our holiday I ask myself if I should still wear a bikini, and every year I come to the same conclusion, yes why the hell not?  But why do I doubt myself in the first place? 

Okay so I am petite, small, slim, I am not skinny, I am gently curvy and only 5 ft 2 inches tall.

Here's my worry though - I don't have a flat tummy any more, but I have had two fantastic amazing children and I am quite happy to have compromised a little to have these two in my life. 

To be fair I have never really had those elusive abs - maybe as a teenager but that was just my natural figure, certainly in my twenties I was always a little bit curvy around the middle.. 

And even though I lost a bit of weight two years ago and got back to a more comfortable size for me the abs still didn't appear.  I am just not prepared to put the extra work in to get them.  I am happy to exercise two or three times a week.  I am happy to eat a sensible, balanced diet, most of the time.  But I refuse to go to the extremes needed to get a lower body fat percentage that would be needed for me to get a flatter tummy.

And so I choose my clothes to flatter my figure.  I like a top that 'skim's, I love a peplum style jacket, I wear a higher waisted jean, I choose dresses that are loser and not too tight - I favour defining my waist rather than the tighter shift dress.

But when I choose a bikini over a swimsuit I am leaving myself a bit exposed.

So why don't I choose a swimsuit instead? - because I'd be too hot, because I like to get a tanned tummy (which looks so much better than a white one), because I hate pulling a wet swimsuit down to go to the toilet.  I like to sunbathe and I want to do that in a bikini, I do have swimsuits that I use for swimming and hot tubs  in the UK though - the one above is a favourite from Swimwear365.

And when we arrive poolside everyone else is wearing a bikini - whatever shape or size, and mostly we are more worried about ourselves than thinking about what anyone else looks like.  In the hot Mediterranean countries, the women wholeheartedly embrace the bikini - young or old, big or small.  They ooze confidence!

And there lies the answer - it is confidence that is sexy and appealing.  Not what shape or size you are.  Just have confidence!  Ok I know it's not as simple as that but you get my point!? 
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But how can I make peace with my body and embrace confidence?

In the most recent issue of the Boots Magazine (free to advantage card holders in-store) Health & Beauty, there is an article all about this (Page 71) and it is all finding a happier middle ground.  According to a new body movement called 'body neutrality' instead of forcing ourselves to love something, we need to accept what we have and stop obsessing,  So for me, make peace with my tummy and appreciate instead, what it has done/does do for me - and that's it - in short, the middle ground between body bashing and body positivity.  Read the whole article if you get a chance, it's good - I tried to find it online, I found the magazine online, but not the article!

So a bikini it is then!

I always treat myself to a new bikini (or two) before my holiday now.  For years we holidayed in the UK or with family in France and as the children were younger I didn't get much opportunity to sunbathe.  But now they are older we enjoy a lazy two weeks in the sun and that includes lots of sunbathing.

For my peitite shape, the style that works is a tie side bikini bottom and a triangle halter neck.  I'm only a 34B so I don't need the support and I find a halter neck flatters my toned shoulders.  I used to choose something more padded - so I looked bigger but these days I don;t bother, I am me and I am small!
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Last summer in Kefalonia wearing my White Company navy bikini

I asked a few friends for some feedback on bikini wearing and what they think ...

"I'm never really comfortable in a bikini, I feel a bit exposed"  but she did go on to say "in reality most people are totally absorbed by themselves (it's true when did you last look at a group photo and notice anyone else but you?) so worrying about what other people, usually strangers who will never meet you again, think is a complete waste of energy" - sound advice!

"I always wear one, who cares" - absolutely brilliant attitude!

"I spend the winter in the sun and every year I think it is time to change to a one piece and every year I give it 'just one more year'" - ​long may that continue.

"Bizarrely I have become more confident to wear a bikini the older I get ..." - I love this, that is because as we get older we care less what others think and find a new confidence.

I have tried the higher waist bottoms but being so petite I actually feel they drown me and make me look bigger.  So that style is not for me.  I do struggle to find a big choice of tie-sides but I think that bikini bottoms without the tie are less forgiving and if they are even slightly too tight then they dig in and emphasise any fat that might be lurking.  With a tie-side I can tie them a bit loser and they are more flattering, but if you think that style is too skimpy then make sure you size-up in any swimwear!  Really don't worry about what the label says - I always buy a 12 in a swimsuit and a 10 in a bikini.

I prefer to order bikini's online and then try them on at home (with a self-tan) and where the lighting is more forgiving than the scary changing rooms.

I have been going back and forth for a few weeks to choose a couple of new ones this year but I think I have finally settled and made a decision.

Next week I will share my bikini finds with you as well as some fabulous holiday accessories and a few suggestions of the best places to buy swimwear all year round.

But first, note to self: be confident / be body neutral!!!

I'd love to know what you think, comment below.
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Love from
Michelle xx
Above I am wearing a navy polka dot swimsuit from Lascana at Swimwear365 with a pom pom scarf as a sarong from Sweet-Bea and flip flops from Vionic.

​Disclaimer: this is not a sponsored post, I am linking to the products because I love them, my sarong was gifted to me from Sweet-Bea but I was under no obligation to include it in this post.  May contain affiliate links.
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Gail link
25/6/2018 11:44:51 am

I'm with you Michelle! Every year I agonize about whether or not to wear a bikini. I have three swimsuits as back up but just looking at them makes me depressed. And I always find that nearly everyone is wearing a bikini and some of them are older and bigger than me. So as you say it's all about confidence.

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Michelle Green link
25/6/2018 12:27:19 pm

Thank you! We will rock our bikini's! x

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Karen link
25/6/2018 04:13:54 pm

I’m like you-would adore super flat abs but not prepared to put in the mega work to get them! I am quite tall though at 5’8” so with a bit of deep sucking in(!) can sometimes stretch out the wobbly bits! Also I live in the Mediterranean and-yes-anything goes here. After a morning run the girls in my running group (all over 55) just strip down to sport’s bra and panties and rush into the sea. We were all tentative about this at first but now just embrace it. We’re bound to have lots of wobbly bits and lines on our skin. We truly don’t care anymore, never scrutinise each other and just have fun. Buy those two bikinis!

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Michelle Green
26/6/2018 09:31:26 am

Ooh that sounds such fun and absolutely perfect! Life is for living and not worrying about what we look like all the time! I have yet to embrace that but I want to, it's a work in progress! Thank you for your encouragement xx

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Nancy Baten link
25/6/2018 07:21:49 pm

I bought a new bikini this year. I still couldn't get myself to buying a swimsuit. But you look good in both!

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Michelle Green
26/6/2018 09:32:00 am

Thank you, there is definitely a role for both, but hot country sunbathing has to be a bikini! xx

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