Low libido in menopause | how to have a better sex life after 50

Desire and libido ... and menopause, a subject that is often discussed (usually anonymously) on Facebook menopause support groups and very occasionally after a few glasses of wine with girlfriends but many women are simply too embarrassed to discuss their sex lives. Even with their husband or partner.  But if we don't, how do we understand what is normal, how can we resolve what might be really simple worries and find the rewarding, loving and happy sex life we deserve - yes even in our 50s and beyond!

There is no 'normal' that you need to adhere to ... what works for one couple, may not work for another couple and if both partners are happy with the quality and frequency of sex in their relationship then that is all that matters.  However, did you know that a sexless marriage (or relationship) is considered to be one where there has been no sexual intimacy for over a year and a low sex marriage is where sexual intimacy happens less than once a month.   If you want to reignite your sex life beyond menopause and understand more about desire and libido then please be reassured there are very few issues that cannot be resolved with a little bit of patience and the right support.

Sex is good for our wellbeing!  It releases feel-good hormones which help to reduce stress and make us feel happier which in turn has a positive impact on our relationship. Sex is good for the heart and can even stop us getting sick, it can also prevent headaches, help us sleep better, make our brains sharper, and prevent incontinence.  Plus it can really help with the age old problem of the grumpy husband!

But you don't need to have a partner to be having a happy and satisfying sex life, solo sex has all the above benefits too.  Isn't it time we stopped being embarrassed and embraced our sexual wellbeing?

In my blog post I am going to share some information on the most common reasons why your sex life might be faltering in midlife and offer some ideas for how you can get help if that is what you would like!

This blog post is sponsored by Lovehoney.

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