How to be single again after 50

Collaborative Post | Around 40% of UK adults are single, with a large proportion of these individuals over the age of 50. There are many reasons for being single, and most have negative connotations. However, many singletons will preach the benefits, especially after leaving a relationship that is no longer right for them.

Being single after 50 will take some adjustments, though. Here are some tips to help you cope and enjoy your newfound single life.

How to be single after 50 (Photo by Yanapi Senaud on Unsplash)

Dealing with separation

No one enters a relationship expecting it to break down, so when it does it can be a huge shock. Staying in an unhappy relationship is doing a disservice to both partners, so separating is often the best solution for all.
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Make sure you have the correct legal support as you navigate this process. Whether there is marriage, children or shared assets involved, separating or divorcing can be a complicated process. Having the support of a legal team can cut the stress and encourage it to be as amicable as possible

Connect with your support circle

Going through a life change as large as becoming single is tough. Take some time to connect with your support circle. This could be your family and close friends, but you could also reach out to charities who can help.
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If you feel you would benefit from talking therapy, start by seeking out a local therapist. They will be able to provide you with the tools to process the separation as well as see your singledom as a benefit.

Keep yourself busy

After a relationship ends you will suddenly find yourself with more free time. Although this may be something you want, it can quickly turn into feelings of loneliness.

Once you feel ready to be sociable again, start making plans. You could start by doing coffee dates with friends or dinner. If you are feeling brave, why not start a new hobby in the community? Book clubs are a great way to meet like-minded people whilst doing something you enjoy.

Consider dating again

Society often makes us feel like relationships are necessary for personal happiness and that is definitely not the case. If you want to spend time being single and discovering yourself, then take as much time as you need.
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Once you do feel ready, online dating over 50 is an option. If this feels scary, however, you could ask friends to set you up. Blind dates are intimidating so you could ask to exchange numbers before committing to a date in order to get a connection going.


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